College kids

This weekend I realized how ridiculous I was in college. My adopted niece (who is over my shoulder screaming in my ear at this moment) is a piece of work! She is truly convinced that her issues are real issues. First of all, she has no job, no money, no car, and no hustle. She is a full time student and makes wonderful grades, yet she still has complaints about everything. "My thighs are not thick enough, my butt isn't ghetto enough, my hair isn't long enough, I don't have any money, I don't have a car" and yadda yadda yadda....... I remember when I too was a freshman at a HBCU I wanted so desperately to look like the upper classmen but that's not the deck of cards God dealt me. I had to use what I had to my best advantage. I too was a skinny, underdeveloped young lady in a sea of fine girls at 18 years old.

I do understand that the issues and pressures of society are REAL issues for her; its just funny to hear about it now that I am an adult and mother. I remember driving my parents crazy about needing more money, clothes, food and trust. They knew me well enough to know that it would all pass sooner or later but I wanted immediate acceptance and approval right then.

Nonetheless, she has talked my ear off for the last 72 hours about the SAME stuff! But I love her and I listened somewhat patiently and encouraged her to continue to make the right decisions. I guess this is a good lesson for me because my kids will be going through the same stuff in many years to come. Lord, I pray I can get through it!